According to me every Boy and Girl have, boyfriends and Girlfriends.
When you were of age 3 - 5, didn't you have any girlfriends or boyfriends?
But now, you're giving a different meaning to a normal friendship.
See, friendship doesn't mean you must have Sexual relations.
We have learnt this, from those communities, where only the human body is everything.
We need to understand why this happened, and what happened to us.
In the past it used to be only in Western countries but now, it's everywhere.
If you say the word "Relationship", people might think it's related to the body.
Aren’t those who are reading this post carefully, have relations with me?
Don't you have relations with your parents, Friends, Teachers?
Yes, it is, but you can't say it.
Because if you say, you are having a good relationship with your teacher's, they might think you are doing some hanky-panky with your teacher.
We need to understand, why actually you became like that.
The problem is, your hormones have stolen your understanding.
I'm a boy, and if I say a girl, that you are my friend.
Does it mean I need to get in contact with your body? Can't we just be friends?
You are a girl, and my friend as well, but I can't say you are my Girlfriend, because the outcome might be wrong.
It happened because we are giving more importance to those relationships having sexual contact.
We need to understand, there are relationships (deep connection), other than sexual relationships.
You can hold such a profound relationship with people, without your body being involved in it.
For one, it might be necessary to keep sexual relationships, it's okay, it's their personal choice.
But friendship and relationships can be possible at different levels with many people. Is it possible or not?
At one time you can keep a deep connection with thousands of people.
Well this is the post I'm publishing and you reader's are reading it, we have built a deep relationship between us.
Now if I use the word Relationship here, people might think two bodies are getting together.
If two bodies are in contact, only the outside part of the body is in contact.
Skin is the outermost part of your body, so how deep is the relation?
I can connect to people, not with their heart or feelings, but in their deep state of mind,
I like to make a relation with someone whose life energy get's pulsed with mine, this relationship is deep, really deep.
Sexual intercourse, it's okay, at one stage of life it might be necessary, I'm not here to judge it, whether it's right or wrong.
But don't make it the base of Friendship.
Then, why can't you be the Boyfriend or Girlfriend of everyone around you?
Mainly, you might be asking at what age you must have a relationship having sexual activity involved. Is it your question?
In my opinion you will serve the world on a big scale,
If you stop tagging it as boyfriend and girlfriend, Call it Romance, love-story, or something other, because it's necessary to.
The word friend must be released from the body, otherwise friendship might not happen.
Everyone will be in Fear,
If I say to any girl that you are my friend, she might get scared, without any reason, thinking what exactly I want, how can be he my friend.
I'm again saying, release the word friend, let friendship happen everywhere...
Sexual Relationship, might happen with one person, that's different part, that's your personal matter's
At what age?
See, when you are learning, at this stage of life, if you keep away these things from you, believe me, your soul will only, result in failure.
You will not rule on it, but it will rule on you.
It must not have happened,
At this stage of life, how to make ourselves at the topmost level, don't be in a hurry to live.
Living might happen after sometime, if you live in hurry, you might not be able to learn joyfully
Don't try to live in a hurry.
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I'm not at all a moralist to tell you, do this, do that...
If someone is compelled to do so, one can do it.
But for everyone it's not necessary to make it a habit.
That, if you are in college and should have sexual relationships with someone.
There is no such rule like that, no such compulsion.
Humans can grow ahead of that.
Let me give you one example,
One tradition is really popular all over India among Mango Farmers,
If you plant a Mango Tree, then after 12-24 months, at the season time, flowers will come out.
Mango Farmer after very hard work plucks the flower from the trees,
Because, if you keep it as it is, then fruits will come out.
Those tiny trees might give 1-2 fruits.
Those trees, where fruit doesn't come for 3 to 4 years, grow large amounts of fruit.
For those trees, where fruit comes too early, they cannot grow as fruitful trees.
So, the mango farmer has that sense, he keeps on plucking those flowers off the trees.
For humans too, we must not be in a hurry.
Before living, it is better that you are at one of the peaks, that life is stable for you.
If you try to live in a hurry, life may be too complex for you, and in future, there will be a lot of turmoil.
If you go to Western Colleges, there you can see that most of the students are from eastern side like Asia,
although it's their region, hardly about only 40% will be Native Americans.
It's happening because students of Countries like India and China have a family support system.
They have to live with their parent's till the age of 23 - 25,
But in Native America, generally student's get separated at age of 17 or 18
They live with their partner's. They go through emotional things in life, for that they need to earn money, and everyday night they need to take care of their partner's
No time to go to the library, no time to study.
Take a look at all colleges in America. Every topper, it's either Indian, or Chinese or any asian.
Majority of Americans are not able to learn study of Postgraduate study,
Only because they have a boyfriend or girlfriend...
And it is always not right, things happen, everyday problems, etc
These things happen daily,
This is the time of your life where the energy in your body is at its peak.
At this stage of life, if you focus, and make it stable, then this energy gets converted into one miracle.
But if you lose it, it's lost.
“Friendship is the purest love. It is the highest form of Love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving.” -- OSHO
That's for today, if you are in college it's not necessary to have a relationship involving sexual activity unless you are having a big problem.
Thank you, for reading.
Let me know your thoughts in Comment box below.
Article by: Dhananjay S. Satanure (Founder and Editor in Chief - Notable Today News Blog)
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